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Something we all crave, but sometimes we push Loyalty. Loyalty we got to talk about this Loyalty. Is loyalty a virtue or a trap? Is it a sign of strength? It's just, I don't know. It's just.

Speaker 1: 0:42

You can get blindsided by it, because from friendships to companies, to politics, to families, loyalty can be both the glue and the cage. So this is like a big topic. So let's start with the definition. The definition of loyalty is generally defined as a strong feeling of support or allegiance, but that's just the service. So there's loyalty in people, friends, partners, mentors, all that. There's loyalty in institutions, like companies you work for for years, and there's loyalty to ideas, beliefs and even to like a version of yourself you're trying to honor. But so here's the catch Sometimes loyalty asks us to stay when we should go.

Speaker 1: 1:30

You might, you know, be around somebody or not know if you still need to be around a certain person or certain people, but it's just like how loyal you are to those people or to, like I said, to their job. It can be to anything, but to defend what we don't believe in, to, like, silence our doubts, so like. The question is, how do we know when loyalty is love and when it's fear? That's the hard one, because sometimes you can't tell the difference. It's hard. So it's like what's going on in your brain when you feel loyal, like because loyalty is rooted in belonging. Humans evolved to survive in tribes, so loyalty to groups meant survival. But today it's like that instinct sometimes attaches to people or systems that no longer even serve us or really serve. They don't even stand on business when it comes to loyalty. So it's like it's different. It's different. Now. Loyalty ain't the same. People don't even stand on business when it comes to loyalty. So it's like it's like it's different, it's different. Now Loyalty ain't the same. People don't stick by their loyalty, so like. So is loyalty always a good thing.

Speaker 1: 2:34

And see, that's the tricky part, because loyalty is neutral until context is added. It's like it's not, it's not feeling, it's not the feeling that matters, it's what you're being loyal to and why guilt, fear and even shame can disguise themselves as loyalty. So you got to be careful with certain situations. It's so like, say, when you say I owe them, it can either mean I'm grateful or you might be trapped Like healthy loyalty feels empowering if it's toxic, toxic loyalty feels like like you're, like being suffocated. So you should be able to tell the difference, but sometimes it's hard.

Speaker 1: 3:16

So like, say, say, a person found themselves in like a 10-year friendship, uh, with somebody that she no longer even like recognized and she knew this person was changing. But like you knew the relationship was like unhealthy, but you kept staying, the person kept staying or whatever, and the whole reason most likely would be because of loyalty. But it almost costs the person a self-worth. So you have to make sure you don't do too much, or you know it'd be kind of hard when it comes to that and then it'd be hard to like to walk away from it. You know, especially if you're really loyal to somebody or you fuck with them like that, because sometimes you just have to like redefine loyalty. It's not like. It's not like who you stick with, but who sticks with with your growth. So some people might be in the wrong lane. It's like we're not ready to be in that lane, yeah, keep going in circles. So yeah, that that's just a whole big thing. So loyalty these days don't mean shit, it's not even it's like back in the day loyalty like, well, that was that real loyalty, shit. These days, shit is different.

Speaker 1: 4:32

So Now let's talk about what about, like the workplace. When you get work for us being loyal to work, loyalty gets complicated at work. So some people they'll have a job and you, loyal to their job, you stay late, you stay through layoffs because they loyal to you and you don't been there like say, six years or whatever, and then all of a sudden they lay you off without anything like that. That's fucked up. And you'll be a person that have so much loyalty to a company Say, I'm talking about you work for a company. You always like you've missed your birthdays, you miss your family, you know events or gatherings or whatever, or your kids' events, you've canceled vacations, and that's some loyalty for your ass. That's real loyalty to a job. When you basically put them first and say fuck your family and whatever you got going on in your piece, you'll feel like you do all that for a company. They should have your back.

Speaker 1: 5:41

Businesses don't always operate on that emotional currency level. So sometimes you have to like evaluate loyalty like contract, mutual, clear and like with boundaries, because if you don't, you'll be in fucked up situations because, like, sometimes loyalty and integrity collide like. So think about these whistleblowers and protesters and people who leave um long-held beliefs or whatever communities because something deep inside them like shift. Loyalty says like, stay true to your group. Integrity says stay true to your values, like because ideally they align some point, but when they don't, long term like, psychological well-being usually follows integrity. So loyalty that costs you your identity is way too expensive.

Speaker 1: 6:32

So that's where you need to just need to know, like, where to draw the line. And it's, it's fucked up that you know from friends or up to like businesses or whatever you want to call it. It's, it's the loyalty. You have to draw a line, and you might not even want to, but a majority of the time that might be the best thing to do. And some people, like I said, loyalty don't be it, don't mean the same to everybody, because it's like shit. You just tell people what the fuck is going on, whatever it is. If you loyal, you loyal. If you not, then just go ahead and be 100. You know with the job and let them know shit and they'll show you real quick what type of motherfucker they are. Same with people. So you just got. You just gotta keep your eyes open when she liked it. Just keep your eyes open, for it's like you gotta be able to tell.

Speaker 1: 7:23

It's hard to tell the difference between loyal motherfuckers and people that just speaking a good game. So, like, what does loyalty mean to you? Like, sometimes you have to sit and ask yourself, like, what does loyalty mean to you? If a person's doing something to you and you feel like it's not loyal, that's not the type person that you are. That's how you would handle, like your loyalty or whatever, then that shit was never real. That shit was never real in the first place.

Speaker 1: 7:55

If that's, if that's what type of shit goes on in a person's head when they say that they loyal, like it may, it makes you think like, twice, three, four times. You know it's just like damn, it's fucked up because it's loyalty. What is it like supposed to be? Is it a promise? Is it just a habit? Is it a virtue, like maybe it's something that, like, we constantly have to redefine because, person to person, season to season, I mean it's just, you never know. It's something that, like, we constantly have to redefine because, person to person, season to season. I mean it's just, you never know. It's just, people's loyalty is different and it's just like I don't know, one day it can be one, one way or one thing, and the next day it can be some totally fucking different.

Speaker 1: 8:32

Because the healthiest kind of loyalty doesn't demand that you disappear, so it shows up, but not at the cost of your truth. So if, if you feel like, like you need to like rethink a relationship or a workplace or even a belief or whatever, it's just like hope, you sit with it, like sit with it because loyalty is very powerful. But you said you deserve to give it wisely, like you, you can't, yeah, you can't. No, you cannot just be giving and loyalty and then like, then people be fucked up because they don't be knowing what to do, because they done gave their loyalty or they done did certain shit, and then they just be like damn, what the fuck?

Speaker 1: 9:14

And that shit fucks with people, especially when you a person that you know that always try to be there for a person or something like that, and then to be on some some shit like that and just like it fucks with you and make you look at people a totally different way. And it's even worse when you have people that tell you shit first and then you'd be like, oh okay, then you run out on it and be like whatever, but the whole time it was true. So I mean, yeah, you have to Like with that loyal shit motherfuckers, everybody ain't loyal these days that loyal shit be in one ear and out the other and people be on a whole different ballgame when it comes to loyalty. Yeah, and that's fucked up, that some things you have to do and, uh, two people are or you have to switch, switch up on how you do shit, or fuck with other people, or and or it makes you scared to fuck with people that you meet because also, if, like, they end up doing some shit like that and then you show loyalty, and then what fuckers they?

Speaker 1: 10:26

Loyalty is totally different. That's what fucks you up, especially when you're a person that go and then you show loyalty and them, motherfuckers, their loyalty is totally different. That's what fucks you up, especially when you're a person that go around and you show loyalty to damn near everybody that you fuck with, and then when you get fucked over or you get somebody do some ho shit and stuff like that. It's just like damn, it's like a slap in the face. And it's even worse when somebody try to tell you like I told you, so that shit, it's like damn. So that loyalty shit is like a home. That shit hits home. Some real shit.

Speaker 1: 10:53

Because I mean, if you, if I don't know, loyalty plays a big part in shit. Because shit, if I fuck with you, I fuck with you. If I don't, I don't. From loyalty to you, loyalty to you Shit. If I can help you, I can help you, but I don't, I don't. I'm loyal to you, I'm loyal to you Shit. If I can help you, I can help you, but I don't know.

Speaker 1: 11:11

Everybody just look at things different. So I guess it means that I mean you just need to make sure you don't, just make sure you know who you're being loyal to. When you're being loyal, make sure you do your at this shit. This point in time, these days, you got to do research, damn near, because you fucking around be you being loyal to the wrong motherfucker, and it's just like I said, people play a certain role and you will never know because they'd be so good at it. So you just have to make sure you take care of your peace and just don't do any kind of stupid ass shit when it comes to that, because loyalty can be very complex, because it's admirable, symbolizing trust, love and reliability, and that it also can become damaging when it causes someone to stay in an unhealthy relationship or support you know harm. They support harmful systems or ignore personal values or whatever.

Speaker 1: 12:17

So it's like I'm not just I'm not just saying you know, it's not about saying, it's about why you stay. It's not about staying, it's about why you stay. It's not about staying, it's about, like I said, why you stay. So it's like I don't know. It's just personal loyalty to friends and family and partners that show up and support, trust and stand by someone during hard times. It's personal loyalty.

Speaker 1: 12:45

Professional loyalty is like to your employer, mentors or a team, often saying like dedication to share goals or staying with a company long term and shit like that. Ideological, uh, loyalty to beliefs, causes or religions. Like this can guide personal values and decisions as well. So it just, it just depends like you, any like anything. It doesn't matter what. It is loyalty, you just have to make sure you is damn like, have your pros and cons and and shit.

Speaker 1: 13:18

If your cons is outweighing your pros and shit, I guess at that point that's when you know exactly what you need to do to get back on track with that little shit. Because, like I said, this day and age everybody ain't on the same shit. A lot of people is like for they self or fucking people over, or this, this and that, and you just got to know, like I said, be 100 and stay on top of your shit. But that's all I got gotta say about the word loyalty and what it means and how I feel about it. But y'all already know what it is. It's your girl, dj Cornbread aka the empress, don't forget. If you would like to be a guest on the show, hit us up on for shit show the podcastcom. Or you can hit me up on tiktok after shit show the podcast. You're the mix with the one and only celebrity, dj cornbread aka the empress. Hey, hey, man, it's a big extra club. I'm the big man. This is the largest fashion show of the podcast. Say, I'm the biggest, thank you.