Speaker 1: 0:01

what's up, y'all? Sugar dj cornbread, aka the impresario, know what it is. Back with another one. This ep is going to be about relationships and kids. When is it okay to say yes to a relationship or be with somebody or try to shoot your shot at somebody if they have kids? Is that a thing or is it not a thing? So do y'all think it's okay for a guy to try to holler at a female if she's a single parent or vice versa, if the guy is taking care of kids, that and he's no longer with the woman? If it's, is it okay for a woman to shoot her shot or to be dating a guy that has a single father, he has just has his kids, or just kids that he's taking care of, or, like I said, vice versa? I'm gonna say it just it depends, because if you call yourself trying to talk to somebody or date somebody and they already have kids, you got to be strong. You got to be strong. It's a different kind of strong, it's like because you have to be okay with kids and, depending on how those kids act and the age you know of the kids and if they respectful or not or disrespectful, that it's a big thing with it, because sometimes you might get into a relationship but try to talk to somebody, you find out they have kids and then they're a single parent and you're like I don't know, them kids' attitude is fucked up, or them kids don't listen, they misbehave, they rude, you know. So I'm going to say it all depends to me on the kids, because some people you'll be dating and talking to and they don't want you to say nothing to their kids. They feel a certain type of way and they get pissed off when you try to put their kids in their place, even if it's right and you're. They need those kids need to be put in their place, or they are you just telling them something that is going to help them grow or something that they need to know, because some kids they don't act the way they're supposed to act, but they don't act the way they should act and they don't have no type of home training because of where they get it from, which can be the mother or the father, especially, like I said, if they're a single parent. If it's a single mom, she raising kids, if she dirty or nasty and or and don't give a fuck how her house look or how she take her herself. Them kids gonna grow up. They're gonna be the same exact way nasty, dirty, and I won't take baths, all this type of shit. If that's what they was, that's what they know, I mean what else? What else they gonna know? Like I mean what else they gonna? Unless they one of those kids and some kids they'll see how their parents or the person, the figure that they were around, how they act and they don't like it or they didn't like it. So when they get older, they change all that. When they start getting older, they're like oh no, I ain't trying to be funky, I ain't trying to be sending them nasty house, I ain't trying to know how to cook any of that. And they're like they'd be like, nah, I need to flip this. My house ain't gonna be like that. But then you got the ones that they don't matter. It don't matter what shit. They feel like shit.

Speaker 1: 3:09

This is how I was brought up. This is how I was taught. My mama didn't do shit. My mama didn't cook. Mama didn't know how to do this. She didn't do that. Mama was nasty, didn't like the house clean, didn't like nice stuff. You know nice things and so shit. Why should I, and that's what make it fucked up. Because, first of all, I'm not about to date nobody. They got some nasty ass kids or they're nasty themselves. That shows a lot about you and your kids and your lifestyle. Hell no, if you okay with being in a nasty ass house with different types of everything and you, just you know you okay with it and that's fine as long as you feel like you step out, you good. But your house ain't up to par. I don't know. This should have me scared to sit down to pee at your house. No toilet seats fuck that ain't sitting on nothing. Because you gotta watch. You have to watch certain. You have to watch that because it's hard trying to get in a relationship with somebody where their kids don't have no type of home training and they think everything is cool because they're getting it from who they're getting it from, and that'll fuck up a whole relationship.

Speaker 1: 4:14

You can be okay or like somebody, as soon as you say the wrong thing to, to kids or something like that oh yeah, it's backfire time. The parent, the other parent is mad, don't say nothing to my kids, or something like that. Oh yeah, it's backfire time. The parent or other parent is mad. Don't say nothing to my kids. Don't do it. No, motherfucker, somebody needs to say something to them because this shit is nasty. This shit is not ladylike, not guylike or whatever the case may be woman, female or male.

Speaker 1: 4:37

You got to be clean. You got to keep your shit clean your house, clean your body clean, brush your teeth, wash your face, take back all it. Like, like I said, that some kids, if they don't see that significant I mean they don't see the other parent doing it, or wasn't taught that, or grew up around seeing their that parent keeping themselves together and being nice and clean and keeping a clean house and all that they don't feel like that shit is just for the birds. They're going to feel like, no, that's just some shit. Like, if I want to do it, I'll do it. If I don't want my shit to be nasty, it'll be nasty and that shit is fucked up Because, like I said, that'll turn me a whole other direction when it comes to trying to be in a relationship or trying to be no. Yeah, hell, no. You got to figure that out.

Speaker 1: 5:26

And then, what is the age for you guys that would date somebody that have kids? How many kids is okay? I've heard two kids, I've heard three, I heard I can't go, it can't go. Four or five. And then how many baby daddies is okay? One baby daddy, two? What if somebody got three babies, three or four baby daddies? What that mean? They just have to try to get it while it's good, I mean, or they just money hungry. At that point, what do y'all think is okay? Is it okay for a single mom to be single and not be in no kind of relationship but got a whole bunch of kids? My thing would be like what is the whole reason? My thing would be like my question would be why are you single? That's what I'd be wanting. That's what I would be wanting to know If I was a male and a woman had a lot of kids.

Speaker 1: 6:30

That's what I'd be wanting to know. First of all, why aren't you with nobody or neither one of the dads? To make sure it's not the woman and it's probably my, you know, because the majority of time, but like women, I always like to say, oh, it's his fault or I'm not with him because of this, I'm, you know. So if that's the case, then okay, see what it is and why it wasn't that. You decide from there if that's something she want to work with. But majority of the time everybody already know. You know it's hard, it's hard to say who fucked up and who didn't, you know.

Speaker 1: 7:08

Also, on the ages on the ages of kids, what's okay for an age range, I've heard if they ain't under 10, some people, some dudes, they like heard if they ain't under 10, some people, some dudes, they like now, I ain't fucking with it if you got some kids that's already in their teenage years and right there pushing the tweens or whatever you y'all call them these days, they like nah, because that mean whatever they've been taught, whatever they know, is what they know, and ain't no changing that shit, ain't no fixing that shit. So the people just feel like I don't know, I gotta be able to still mold you and fix you. Fix whatever been fucked up or what you didn't, any information or whatever you was taught that was wrong. I gotta be able to fix that shit. So what y'all think like is it okay or is it not okay? Because I have, I feel like if you are, I love little kids and you know teenagers is okay too. But I feel like it's better if you meet somebody and they tell you oh yeah, I have a two-year-old, three-year-old, four-year-old, you know, something like that. I feel like that would be better than having someone that's already a teenager to a certain extent, because if it's a kid, like I said in y'all relationship and say, especially if they don't know how to, they're not really. They're good with toddlers, so starting to them and I a1 with them and you good with kids and you love this, isn't it? You can get them on the right track. They're taller in the right track, so they don't end up following the footsteps of the person that's leading them downhill. So that's kind of to me. That, to me, is like a good thing.

Speaker 1: 8:43

When it comes to like, if you do talk to somebody and they're like, oh, yeah, I got kids, because who wants to be talking to somebody? And they're like, yeah, I got kids. They are grown or teenagers and it's like, okay, yeah, that's okay when it comes to them trying to have movie night or get out and go party or whatever the case may be, or have a date night. It's okay when it comes to that. But them, they usually be the main ones that be really got shit going. They're the ones that, oh yeah, you ain't gonna do this attitude, gonna be fucked up, cursing and all that type of shit. Then you're gonna be wondering why you and a teenager always getting into it. You feel some type of way because the motherfucking way he was brought up, way she was brought up.

Speaker 1: 9:27

Like I said, you can't, can't say shit to some people's kids because even if they're in the wrong, they know they're in the wrong. The person you're dating, they know it's fucked up and that's wrong. It's fucked up that they nasty, they don't give a fuck. They just don't want you to say nothing to their kids because they nasty and it's okay to them. But, like I mean, I don't know, like I said, that's that's like another a big topic.

Speaker 1: 9:55

Um, on that issue, because some people, like I said, I've heard they feel like no, when you single and you're trying to date, they've said, nah, don't look for nobody, or don't date nobody. As soon as they say they got yeah, I, I got a child, you and your baby daddy. Good, nope, I've been a single parent for so-and-so. They like, oh, nope, cut the strip. Now they're like hell. Nah, I'm not dealing with it. But I feel like that's kind of fucked up because why would you cut the strip, cut the string on somebody that you know that you can fuck around and might damn near marry you never know just because they're a single parent, they have one child, you know.

Speaker 1: 10:35

I feel like you should see where it goes and see where it leads to before you just decide oh yeah, I'm not fucking with them because she got a child and she not with the baby daddy. What if the baby daddy was putting his hands on her or beating her? Or what if she was raped? Or this is like you don't, y'all don't, you don't know. So you're just gonna say, fuck that good thing that could possibly be your lifelong partner just because she has a uh, toddler or a five, six, seven, eight year old. Now, if it's a newborn baby, yeah, that's, that's kind of yeah, that's that's kind of like the one foot apart, yeah. So I understand people that's like, no, no, she got a newborn. Now, fuck all that.

Speaker 1: 11:17

But then you have some that when you can't have, they can't have kids or they don't have any of their own, so they rather the person they date or they talk to. They rather them have. If they are pregnant, they rather them be well, they rather them be pregnant or have a baby that they just had, because they feel like they can mold the baby and it makes it more feel like they just had a baby. Y'all both had a baby together and that's y'all's child, especially if the dad is not in the picture or the mom is not in the picture. So I mean, I don't know, like I said, I feel like it's okay to date somebody that's single and that they're independent and they do their own shit and they take care of their kids.

Speaker 1: 12:01

But, like I said, that's one thing. As long as they're taking care of their kids, they're on top of their shit and shit is moving at a pace where it's not always, it's not a standstill or there's some fucked up shit going on, then that's the person you like. Okay, well, maybe let me see how this works, see if I can make this, put something with something, make something happen. But if you're trying, if this person is single and they got all this always going on back to back, nothing's never okay, nothing's never's ever right. It's just like damn, what the hell. You know, you probably need to leave somebody like that, leave them where they at, because nine times out of ten that's going to be the whole little relationship, that same shit right there, unless it's somebody that's looking for somebody to cater to them and do everything they want them to do, which is fucked up.

Speaker 1: 12:51

If you're a person like that, like you're supposed to be, I don't know. I look at shit still like 50, 50, sometimes 80, 80, 20, 60, 40, 70, 30, it just depends, you know like. But majority of the time it's some relationship shit 50, 50. But, like I said, you got some people that now they they want to do 10, you do 95, you 95 or they shit doing zero percent. You're doing all 100 of them.

Speaker 1: 13:18

So you have to make sure you decide wisely when it comes to dating somebody that has kids, that's a single parent, and to make sure, like I said, they know what the fuck they doing, they be on top of their shit when it comes to their kids, because these kids out here be giving motherfuckers a headache, they be cursing at you, they got a badass attitude. This fucking social media world got them just feeling they still. They can go on youtube and just do, do, do, do and just type what the fuck they thinking about and all that shit just pop straight up. So you got to be all into that man like, especially when you have teenagers, when they get to start feeling theyself in puberty and all that type of stuff, you're like, oh man, I ain't trying to deal with this shit, but I really like this person. So, yeah, you gotta think about it. You gotta think about it.

Speaker 1: 14:11

These motherfuckers ain't gonna man say, and if it ain't no child for the wrong me ragged, had me out, stressed out and shit like, nah, you do that to your mama, your daddy or whatever. But nah, so people, yeah, you wouldn't like me, we don't have that shit right, right in order. You'll be quick to and I know if you ain't trying to understand and go what the fuck going on, because I'll be quick to. And I know if you ain't trying to understand and go with what the fuck going on, because I'd be quick to move around your ass. You'd probably be quick to move around on my ass and that's fine.

Speaker 1: 14:39

But yeah, like I said, what those questions? Do you think it's okay to date a single mom or dad? That's not, has been in a relationship and is not at that moment? How old can the kids be? How old or how young Is two old or young? It's like one of those big, big topics.

Speaker 1: 15:06

I already told y'all how I feel about the situation. I'm waiting to hear from y'all, so y'all can just hit us up on the show or wwwshitshowthepodcastcom, or you can call us and we will be sure to put you on live, put you on air so you can tell us your thoughts and if also, if you would like to be on the show, but I have not, we have not had a topic that you want to talk about you are welcome to call and let us know your topics or something that you want to talk about or something you want to bring to the show, and we can do a whole live in-person interview at the on air, at the radio or I mean the studio. Or you can do something virtual in person for live footage, for like youtube or social media, or you can do just the audio. So, like I said, hit us up wwwfishowthepodcastcom. It's your girl, dj cornbread.